How To Transform Negative Emotions Part 2: How to Stop Blaming Others

When you habitually play the blaming game, eventually you will see everything as negative and failing; and blame yourself, too.

Many people do the game of blaming.  Blaming takes people out of the equation of their own lives; of being responsible.  You blame others for your failures.  You don’t ever blame yourself.   When people blame, they always feel they are at the effect of other people.

Do you blame others or situations? Do you blame others for your unhappiness? Or the government?  Economy?  And all the outside circumstances, external things.

To say that the reason you are in this situation, in this condition and the way you feel  is because of something else other than what you’ve done.   The weather could be the reason.  The food you ate.  It could be your parents’ fault.  The list goes on and on.

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1:08  When you blame, you invite other negative feelings to you. Anger.  Dissatisfaction.  Discontentment.  Hatred.
1:21 Blaming makes you stop being responsible. And you stop being in charge of yourself.   You forget what you should be focusing on.  You forget what you should be acting on.

1:38  But how can you stop blame.  It is so habitual.  It is habit forming.  It is like addiction.  Once people start to blame others and external factors, every fiber in them becomes that of blaming vibration, the agent of the blame game.   People who blame cannot help it.  They cannot see the reality of their situation.   They are completely filled with an illusion of thinking that everyone else is responsible for what happened to their lives. 

2:08  We need to work to end this vicious cycle.  This terrible addiction.    Slowly.  One by one.

2:13  There are many emotions involved in blaming others.  There are many behavior patterns involved in blaming.  So how can we stop the blaming game?    How can we take responsibility for our own life and own actions.  We must do this one day at a time.  One step at a time. 

2:40  I have spelled out some exercises for you to do, if you catch yourself blaming others and other things.  You may not be blatantly blaming others or even blaming many people.   

All of us in some ways blame someone or something one time or another.  So that we don’t get ourselves to propel and move ourselves forward in our lives.  Let’s examine ourselves carefully.

Let get you to be more responsible for your life and feel good about yourself.  When you are blaming others, you do not feel good about yourself, isn’t it right?

Simple Reminder of How to End the Blame Game:

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Exercise to Stop Blame others:

Step 1:  Accept:

Take one issue at a time.  Not a laundry bag full of all the problems.
While there is at least one evil and guilty party and you were deceived, manipulated or coerced into this situation, you also took a part. If you participated in a situation or situation that led to this unacceptable result and you weren’t a child or coerced at a gunpoint, then you must admit you had a part in this thing that lead to this unacceptable situation.

Step 2: Value and Forgive Yourself:

If you were a young child or a helpless victim, then start to be willing and practice to love yourself.  Then be willing to forgive yourself. If you are unhappy, miserable and angry, even if you’ve been blaming others, deep inside, you do not value and love yourself right now.

Step 3: The antidote to blaming is self-affirmation:

Say affirmations and Prayers when you are swamped with negative emotions.

Suggested Affirmations:

[1] I am willing to be open to let go of my resentment and anger and of the past because I am a beautiful and wonderful person who has so many things that are waiting for me to accomplish in my life.

[2] I choose to rise above all the injuries of the past and take small steps daily to greater growth.

[3] I am worthy of being appreciated and loved and seek a support of a fellowship of like-minded and nurturing fellowship.

[4] I study daily to understand the meaning of compassionate heart.  I accept fully that I did my best I could at the time with what I knew.  I strive to develop my understanding.

[5] Choose your own.

Step 4:  Begin to Dream Again:  

This is not day-dreaming.  This is to rediscover your deepest heart desire.

Work on stating you Purpose, Vision and Goal. 

Step 5:  Begin to improve areas of your life that need repairing immediately:

 Most people immediately start to work on their financial life, because money is much needed to rescue damages.  The money is not the answer but will give you means to solve many problems.

Use this life’s pie chart to access your situation.

In each of the areas, assign a value from 1 to 10.  10 means you are totally satisfied.  1 is almost at the bottom.

Many tens of thousands of people have been using this simple system online and have been able to turn around their lives.

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