Negative Emotions Involved in Comparing and Competing
Let’s look at ourselves comparing to others. At times we compete against others.
Sometimes it could be very healthy to compare. Other times it could be very unhealthy.
Healthy Comparing and Competing:
0:27 Let’s talk about healthy situations. These are the ones we want to honor and practice as much as possible.
In a healthy comparison, you definitely notice the differences between you and others. Look at multicultural situations. Multicultural education. Having different ethnicity. different foods. Different customs. Having multicultural elements available; we learn from each other and we learn from differences. It is a wonderful thing to be able to compare these differences accurately.
1:05 Seeing a person doing well, can really work for you. You are inspired. You are encouraged. You may want to learn more.
Or someone who has better ability. You are running with this person, you can do a little bit more. It’s is like belonging to a Mastermind group. In a mastermind group, everyone lifts each other up. In these examples, comparison is a great way to bring more positive results.
Unhealthy Comparing and Competing:
1:35 What is not OK is when comparing and noticing differences, leads to rejection; ignoring others; and discriminating against others. These are the kinds of perceptions or ways of thinking you want to avoid at all cost.
1:57 People compare all the time. Here is when comparing turns against yourself. You see others doing well, and you start to feel bad about yourself. Others are doing so well, and you get jealous and even begin to hate them.
2:12 You lose a sight of who you are. Why you are doing things. What your mission is. When you see others are excelling at something and creating massive results, and you are lagging behind, you cannot help but feel inadequate and incompetent about your abilities. You begin to doubt about who you are.
This is a negative outcome of comparing and competitive mode. The society encourages people to be competitive to get more productivity out of people.
People are always forced to compete to get better than others, disrespecting, and disregarding friendship and cooperation.
In a competitive race, you forget who you are. You need to center yourself. Learn to love yourself. Know the importance of the work you are doing. Develop compassion for those who have less, who are less fortunate and less able, and who are different.
Transform Negative Emotions Involved in Comparing and Competing:
We went over comparison used in a good way and used in a bad way. comparison used in a healthy way results in respect and appreciation, kindness and empathy toward one another.
Comparison used in an unhealthy way lead to negative judgments, misunderstanding, disrespect, selfishness and unkindness.
3:15 It’s all about energy. People are spiritual beings. When you have heard time relating to others, you can change the way you look at people and view them as the energy form.
It’s all about energy going up and down. Energy is expanding and shrinking. It is the Law of Relativity. There is no absolute light and dark. No good and bad. No high and low. No superior and no inferior.
We are all equal. Let us develop this perception in our hearts. Then we can truly harmonize and come together with many people of different backgrounds, race, colors of skin and of different values and belief systems.
It is true and we prefer to be with like-minded people.
Exercise to Transform Comparison to Positive Perspectives:
[1] State 3 situations where you are constantly comparing yourself with other people.
[2] Describe what you are comparing yourself or your situation to?
[3] How you regard these people and yourself?
[4] Re-framing: What lessons are you willing to learn from each of these situation.
[5] Refocusing: What are you willing to change and move forward in life. What actions will you take daily.
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Competition:
Competition occurs because people have innate tendencies to compare things. There are two kinds of competitions:
The first kind is healthy competition:
You compete to achieve and express excellence. You do best going through
training and often sacrificing having fun. Just like in team sports, teams competing strengthen the team spirit to care and support team members. You bring out the best in each member. Learning to work with weaknesses and strengths of team members.
The second kind is unhealthy competition:
When competition generate negative emotions and excuses to harm others so that you can come ahead. When winning at all cost loses a sight of fairness, excellence and sportsmanship. Unhealthy competitors plot the opponent’s failure. Even try to hurt their opponents.
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